Dear Hummingbird,
I have been dating this girl for about two years now, and I am pretty sure she is the love of my life. We met in church. She is a choir member, and the first time I heard her sing, I knew what heaven was going to be like. When I asked her out, she did the normal ‘I have to pray about it’, and the next day, she agreed to date me. I was so happy.
When we started dating, she gave me a condition. She said she was going to wait till marriage and was not going to allow anyone to come between her and God. I did not think much of it, and I agreed. It has been two years. Two whole years of just kissing and small small rubbing, if I am lucky, but nothing further than that.
My problem though, is that I AM A MAN guy! There is only so much a man can take. It is like sniffing food that you won’t eat. On some days, I can swear I am about to get lucky, and then she will just pull away. And as the gentleman that I am, I can never force her to do something she does not want to do.
Do not get me wrong o, I am not trying to chop and clean mouth. Like I said, this girl is the love of my life, so I know I will marry her. Is that not enough reason for her to allow us to do this thing?
I am scared to bring it up with her because I know I agreed to this whole thing, but I have been trying to drop small small hints, but my girlfriend na church girl, she no sabi these things. On some days I really want to break up with her or just cheat, especially because I have numerous offers. But first of all, I love the babe. Secondly, how can I justify breaking up with her? Is it because of sex that I’ll let her go? Omo, it seems shallow, but I don’t know how much of this I can take.
I know she’s a Jesus baby, a church girl, but me sef I be brother in Christ na. So, why do I feel so guilty for something my body really wants?
Ok, I know fornication is a sin, but all my friends have slept with their babes, and these guys are even more spiritual than I am o. One is even a Sunday school teacher, the other one na pastor’s pikin. So, if they feel okay doing it, that means it is not as bad as I’m thinking, right?
Please advise me and abeg add me inside prayer.
If God’s really watching, I hope He sees how hard I’m trying not to fall. Brother Paul must not go back to Brother Saul o, God abeg.
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